For future reference…
I wanted to write a blog to write down some things about dating and such. I wanted a place to direct possible dates, suitors,boyfriends etc so they know what’s what before I even consider giving them the time of day. They need to know what my standards are, and if they don’t like it, they can’t say that they haven’t been warned 
Please don’t think this is me saying I am already set to start dating, because I am not. Some of you may know of a commitment I have made: No dating for at least 6 months after the divorce, and even then it will be a consideration. I am in no rush to get into a relationship. My priority is God and my children. I do not want to keep repeating the same cycles that have plagued me my whole life. I have learned I deserve to have my standards in men set high…because I deserve it. Most of my life, I have felt that I deserved the worst men, and the abuse. I felt like I didn’t deserve to ever be happy. Now I know that I am worth being treated good.
So here it is, boys…this is what you need to be aware of BEFORE I can give you an answer. These are not not necessarily in order of importance (except the first 2!)
- God is first in my life – to be in my life, you will not be my other half, you will be a third! He is what I live and breathe for. He is my everything.
- My children are a priority and are part of the package – They are my gift from God. For too long they have been pushed aside by men who have come in and out of my life. This will not happen anymore. You treat them like crap, and I guarantee that you will never see me again.
- God must be first in your life – I will watch you, and will ask around. You must love God more than anything. You must love God more than I do, you must love God more than me. If not…see ya!
- If you have kids, they better be a priority too! Just like I stated for me, they are part of your package. If you are just lookin’ for a momma for your kids, then look somewhere else. I love children, but cannot do that emotionally, and I definitely won’t do that to my kids either.
- I am not a booty call! Ok, time for me to be a little blunt, and this might be TMI, but needs to be said. I WILL NOT HAVE SEX WITH YOU! I am done with that part of my life. I do not “hook up”, I do not “play around”. Unless we are married, it ain’t happenin’. I don’t feel the need to explain it any further.
- I deserve to be treated well. I am not a gold digger, and I am not asking for gifts or expensive dates. But please don’t take me to McDonalds (or the like) for a date. I will laugh and then promptly hang up, block, etc if that even comes out of your mouth or fingers…Seriously, it can be a cheap or free date (heck, you can use a groupon or something! LOL), but give it some thought! Lol
- Don’t start talkin’ marriage right away! In the past, this has happened, and its crazy! Ugh. I know this is typically a guy thing, but for me, I am in no rush!
- You will have to EARN my trust and respect – Yes, obviously been burned in relationships. Yes, honestly, I do have trust issues. I am being upfront, so this should not come as a big surprise. You will have to work your tail off to prove to me that you are worth my time and emotions! I have to be cautious for the sake of my emotional health and for the benefit of my children. Yes, I have issues, and so do you. Don’t say I didn’t warn you! lol
Okay, so I think that is it for now. I am sure I will have more to add, so this will be a “work in progress” 
