Archive for September, 2007

I wanted to share these things with you all.  A lady had emailed them a few months ago to one of the Yahoo groups I am in. From my research, I have found out they come from the book”The Excellent Wife” by Martha Peace. This another book that will be going on my list of books I need to read! For more info on Martha Peace check out here website : http://www.marthapeace.com/


1. Ask your husband, “What are your goals for the week?”

2. Ask your husband, “How can I help you to accomplish these goals?’

3. Ask your husband, “Is there anything that I can do differently that would make it easier for you?”

4. Be organized with cleaning, grocery shopping, laundry, and  cooking. As you fulfill your God-given responsibilities, your husband is then free to do his work.

5. Save some of your energy every day for him.

6. Put him first over the children, your parents, friends, home business, ladies’ Bible studies, etc.

7. Willingly and cheerfully rearrange your schedule for him when necessary.

8. Talk about him in a positive light to others. Do not slander him at all, even if what you are saying is true.

9. Do whatever you can to help him accomplish his goals. Some examples are offer to run errands for him, organized your day to be available to help him with his projects, pray for him and make good suggestions. Give him the freedom not to use your suggestion, and do not be offended if he does not follow it.

10. Consider his work (job, goals, hobbies, work for the Lord) as more important than your own.

11. Think of specific ways that you can help him accomplish his goals. Examples are get up early in the mornings to help him get off to work having had a good breakfast, take care in recording telephone messages for him, anticipate any needs he may have in
order to attain a specific goal, and keep careful records of money spent to keep up with the budget.

12. Consider the things that you are involved in. How do they glorify your husband? Ask his guidance.

13. Be piano coversm and gracious to his family and friends. Make your commitment to him obvious to them.

14. Do and say things that build him up instead of tear him down.

15. Dress in a neat and modest manner that is pleasing to your husband.

16. When your husband sins, admonish him privately and gently, always in a submissive manner, giving him hope and pointing him to
the Lord.

17. Encourage him to use his spiritual gifts in ministry.

18. Realize that just as God is glorified when man obeys Him, your husband is glorified when you obey your husband.


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Ok so I am going to attempt to blog about cooking, I have seen some other blogs like this, and I would love to give it a try 🙂 This is my first one, so be kind lol!

I have to say that when cooking things like dinner, I don’t measure too much, so I will give my best estimate 🙂 Also, I do use tomato juice, you could use fresh tomatoes, tomato sauce (with some extra beef broth or water) and I use beef boullion granules, you could use beef broth or plain water. In a pinch, you could use some hamburger meat for quicker version. I add canned veggies like green beans, corn. pinto (or other beans) would be good too! Sometimes I even add fresh cabbage! I love the flexibility of this recipe!

This is my recipe, its a mixture of a few recipes I tried when teaching myself how to make it, I highly recommend learning a recipe like this, its inexpensive, versatile and quite healthy!

Here are the ingredients I used:

2 to 2 1/2 lbs of lean stew beef
1 white onion (medium) (chopped)
4 cloves garlic (minced)
flour (to dust meat with)
oil (to brown meat)
water (enough to cover meat)
2-3 tsp beef bouillion
2 bay leaves
1-2 Tbsp Italian seasoning
1/2 tsp thyme leaves
1/2 tsp rosemary
1 big can tomato juice
about 8-10 carrots
about 8 potatoes (med.)
1 can green beans
1 can corn
1 can peas

1.)get out your BIG stock pot, and heat the oil. While you are doing that , lightly dust the meat with flour. When you are done with that throw the meat in the pan and let it brown.

2.) prepare the onions and garlic if you haven’t already. after the meat is browned, then add the onions. Stir, and let them cook a bit. after about 3 minutes or so add the garlic, and stir (don’t let the garlic burn!) I let it cook a couple of minutes.

3.) add water, enough to cover the meat. Then add beef bouillion, salt and pepper (to taste) and the rest of the seasonings/herbs. stir and cover. Simmer for 1-2 hours, until meat is tender. While it is simmering, go a head and prep the carrots, potatoes and any other veggies.

4) after the simmering time, it time to add the rest of the ingredients!


and let simmer for about 1 hour, until carrots and potatoes are tender 🙂

now its ready to eat…we had some cornbread (slightly sweet of course!). This yummy with saltines or fresh bread too!

I wish I would have thought to get pics of everyone eating it, but I was too full to move 😉 lol and that might be teasing y’all!

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I made the mistake of subscribing to a tag the other day…the word being submission. Well, uh, I blushed a little ( ok, truthfully, A LOT) when almost all the blogs were dealing with perverted submission. Only one was dealing with any sort of godly submission.

hmmm…. so I will post here a little about it. I am not going to go into details, or interpretations, but I will post the info, to let the reader chew on the info for a while. My main interest is Biblical submission in reference to husbands and wives, but submission to God is important 🙂

from the “Webster’s 1828 Dictionary” ( I believe that the older dictionaries describe the meanings for the King James Bibles more so than modern dictionaries, since word meanings change so much)

SUBMIS’SION, n. [L. submissio, from submitto.]

1. The act of submitting; the act of yielding to power or authority; surrender of the person and power to the control or government of another.

Submission, dauphin! ’tis a mere French word;

We English warriors wot not what it means.

2. Acknowledgment of inferiority or dependence; humble or suppliant behavior.

In all submission and humility,

York doth present himself unto your highness.

3. Acknowledgment of a fault; confession or error.

Be not as extreme in submission, as in offense.

4. Obedience; compliance with the commands or laws of a superior. Submission of children to their parents is an indispensable duty.

5. Resignation; a yielding of one’s will to the will or appointment of a superior without murmuring. Entire and cheerful submission to the will of God is a christian duty of prime excellence.

Biblical reference : (underlines, emphasis mine)

Ephesians 5:18-33 And do not be drunk with wine, in which is excess, but be filled with the Spirit, (19) speaking to yourselves in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord; (20) always giving thanks for all things to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, (21) submitting yourselves to one another in the fear of God. (22) Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands, as to the Lord. (23) For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. (24) Therefore as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. (25) Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for it, (26) that He might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the Word, (27) that He might present it to Himself as the glorious church, without spot or wrinkle or any such things, but that it should be holy and without blemish. (28) So men ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. (29) For no man ever yet hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, even as the Lord loves the church. (30) For we are members of His body, of His flesh, and of His bones. (31) “For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother and shall be joined to his wife, and the two of them shall be one flesh.” (32) This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. (33) But also let everyone of you in particular so love his wife even as himself, and the wife that she defers to her husband.

I really love the above verses, they speak of both husbands and wives both submitting! Wives are submitting to husbands, and husbands to God! Its a sad thing that women have lost the desire to submit like the Bible instructs us to, because as you read on in that section, the husbands have some powerful instructions to follow, they are to love their wives as Christ loves the church! I can’t imagine how hard it must be for my husband to maintain that level of unconditional love, especially when I am not submitting or being extra awful. The best thing I can do, is to submit and do it cheerfully. To serve him, and do it like I was doing if for God (because I am doing it for God!), instead of being hateful and full of resentment.

I encourage all my brothers and sisters in Christ to not be afraid to write on spiritual matters, such as submission! Make that when people are searching through catagories, tags whatever they will have words of life and truth come up, not just the things of the world! how might it change some people who are turning to a perverted submission to see writings on Biblical submission, and find peace and hope in the Word.

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oh my, yes its true!!!

see here :

‘God’ apparently responds to lawsuit

I have to say, I was a bit shocked to read this, but to see that God has responded is awesome! (even if it is some one filing on behalf of God, they are listening to Him 🙂 )

This guy is messing with YHWH, and I have to say, making a fool of himself! This is a waste of money and time, that could be spent on court cases that are not as ridiculous as this. Heck, Nebraska could save money, and NOT VOTE him in next time?!!

here is an excerpt :

State Sen. Ernie Chambers of Omaha sued God last week, seeking a permanent injunction against the Almighty for making terroristic threats, inspiring fear and causing “widespread death, destruction and terrorization of millions upon millions of the Earth’s inhabitants.” oh my….I will leave it at that.

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True femininity vs Feminism

ok all my pro-femininity friends, a myspace friend has posted an awesome blog, she brings up some very valid points… here is the link to Amy’s myspace blog : “Time to stand up and take a stand…”

She worded things so much better than I could 🙂 here is a small quote from her blog,

“Thanks to good old feminism, women are allowed to be total attention whores, because your sexuality is you right. But who are you parading around naked for? What does it do for you? Nothing….but it makes MEN awful happy….hmmm, wonder why men aren’t causing such a stink about feminism? Because they are benefiting from it, sunshine!! Now you have to work as long or longer hours as he does, fight your own battles, pump your own gas, etc….You have taken the load off of him and put it on your own stupid back !!!”It got me to a’thinkin’ about the changes since the feminist movement became wide spread. They are such man haters, that they are taking away men’s masculinity, and stripping it from our boys. Women are fighting for equal rights, to do what they want, thinking it will make there life easier…What have we (women) done?! come on now! I would rather be a truly feminine and godly woman, and have my husband adore me, and protect me, and do little things like pump the gas, hold the door open etc. And you know what? I DON’T have to nag my husband or ask him to do those things….oh yeah he does my dishes too, (because he knows my hands are painful with my dermatitis). I don’t have to nag or ask because we both serve each other, and I submit to his God given authority.

Feminists are more of a doormat than they think I am! Its sad, I feel for them, I pray for them. I was there for a large chunk of my life, fighting for equality and screaming the “femi-nazi” (a phrase that my myspace friend has used 🙂 LOVE it!) propaganda! Oh if, I could take back those years! But I will look forward, and scream out in my life, that there IS a better way! A way God designed us to be!

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here’s the article:


I happened to read any excerpt from SALT magazine June 2007, from the article above. I have to say, the lady’s got a point 🙂

for more info on SALT magazine :


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I will attempt to make this short, as I feel a little under the weather today. I feel like I am getting a cold or something, and little Lilly waking up in the wee hours of the morning, is not helping! anyways…. If you are anti-spanking, then don’t read this blog.

We went to 7-11 after church yesterday, and dh came out of there with another man, dh was laughing pretty hard. He then told me about a customer that was in 7-11 with her son. (who was probably younger than our boys). Well, the boy was pretty upset with her, and hit her! and then she proceeds to tell the boy (in what my dh said was a passive tone) something along the lines “well, looks like you will be taking a nap, we do not hit” and the boy went hysterical screaming at the top of of his lungs that he did not want to take a nap, and she couldn’t make him…blah blah blah. And with all of this she was not the least bit authoritative, or stern.

Dh said the man that walked out with him had said “If that was my kid he would have gotten spanked right there in the store!” dh agreed with the man. As do I! dh just sighed and said “we (parents in general) are sissy-fying a whole generation of kids”

I have to say I am passionate about the topic of parenting, and I do believe firm tone and occasional spankings are necessary (OK, just put down that rock you are about to chuck at me, this is my opinion, and I am not advocating abuse!)

I went to school to be a preschool teacher, and was shocked that the discipline methods were so lax, I understand teachers not being able to use spankings (but I remember staying out of trouble at school, because I didn’t want to be paddled, and because dad would have let me have a spankin’ at home too lol) but we were told not to use negative language (not, no, can’t, don’t), not to use time outs (unless the child was going to harm himself or others), and we needed to “redirect” if they were doing something they weren’t supposed to! All fine in theory…did I mention I tried these methods with my own children (as well as my 3 yr old class at work when I was working) ? maybe I should also mention, the fact that they did not work, and the kids would be even more manipulative. I think the kids my classroom were semi-behaved more so due to the scheduling of the day it was structured, and we were keeping their minds busy (that is VERY important)

Back to my children. I had James and Abby with my first husband (who passed away 3 yrs ago, see my other blogs “my outlet” pt 1,2 and 3 for full story) We were both young and not very good parents. I was suffering from depression and my husband was bipolar and abusive. I was weird with my parenting , sometimes I could care less what they were doing as long as they were not getting hurt, and other times I was real hard on them. When I married my second husband (another abusive man) I was starting to accept my role as mom, and started seeing what this cruel man was doing to my son, he was over using the spanking , to the point that James was TERRIFIED of him, and Abby was the same way. The more it happened the more it was starting to happen to me too… I did make the decision to make him leave, to protect my children, and when he came back to get his stuff his sister nearly beat me because according to her, everything I said was a lie and I was using him (come on now, I supported him for almost 2yrs while he couldn’t hold down a job….) and that he was not abusing anyone.

It was in those days and weeks following that, I knew I needed to change, and become the mom I should be, not too passive, but not overly disciplinarian. My children were exhibiting the scars of the things that happen. James was hyperactive, emotionally immature, prone to outbursts, unusual behavior at school (licking things, chewing on clothes, etc) and still having bm accidents (he was 6-7 at the time), and Abby was hyperactive, seeking out male attention (flirtatious behaviors) and had an “entitled” princess attitude. I know that my actions or lack of helped create these undesirable behaviors and I felt like I wanted to give up.

Right when I was at my weakest, God sent my dh, Al. We met at church, and turns out he was having similar issues with his son. Together we make a good team, we are united in our parenting (occasionally there are some bumps in that road, but most of the time we are united). He is good at explaining to the kids why they are getting disciplined, and talking with them about that. We have a semi-structured home (as structured as it can be with 4-5 kids in our home at all times 🙂 ) we use spanking, usually when they repeat a behavior they have been in trouble for before that day. We also use loss of privileges, and time outs. We are pretty consistent with all forms of discipline, and it is working for the most part.

We are still learning, but I can tell you that they are all so much better than they were 2 yrs ago. (imagine kids running amuck in a restaurant or store, yeah, that was them 2 yrs ago) We have helped them learn to control themselves, and mind their manners (for the most part) at least while in public. James and Abby’s behaviors are drastically improved, and they are far better than they used to be. We are still working on a few areas, but in time it will get better. I don’t intend to brag, because if it weren’t for God giving us strength and wisdom to keep going, then I would be writing a far different story.

In closing, every time I see an unruly child with a passive parent(s) I just wish there was some sort of true discipline whether a light swat or taking to the car (oooh I hated that as a kid, having to sit in the car with mom lol), instead of the bribing with candy, or giving in to the tantrum. BRIBING is wrong when you a grown-up is should be wrong when dealing with kids! ach! thats a whole other blog for me. lol, but what are we doing to our kids? is it a big coincidence that kids are getting more out of control and violent with our “professionals” recommending all this feel good fluff? Sounds to me like there were a lot of parents who got their feelings hurt when they were kids, who don’t have the guts to discipline now (and look at their kids, running around, hitting, etc). I admit, that I did a lot of things to deserve the spankings I got, and I thank my parents for loving me enough to be willing to discipline when necessary.

now for my recommended site in line with this topic :


This is a REALLY good website, and I have to admit I have not been doing everything I have read, but the few things I have implemented have been working pretty good!

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